What’s my role in all of this?
I sometimes wonder..

I was told I could set the date, so I did, only to be told 24 hours later that it ‘might clash’ with another wedding. Really? Might?
But I want a June wedding!
I was gutted.
Then I had my first sense of what this might be like going forward…
Luckily, its been good. So far.
Few date dramas, bit of guest list trouble, but nothing she hasn’t been able to sort out!

Q. “What kind of wedding do you want?”
A. Well, fun, family, friends… stress-free please. It surely couldn’t be more stressful than ignoring the hints about getting married for 6 months before I proposed.

Q. “How has it been so far?”
A. Great. Ok, we haven’t planned much yet- does that count? I wrote a guest list, well she put my mates names into the list on her phone, then changed them a bit. I haven’t seen the list since.

Q. “Who’s your Bestman?”
A. Erm, I don’t know. Its not a question of picking one, but do I need one?
Charlotte; OMG. That’s hilarious. Are you serious?
Rob; Maybe I need people, but picking a best one? Just one?

Q. “What kind of stag do would you like?”
A. Um, maybe go somewhere for a long weekend? Really, I just want to spend time with my friends. We don’t all get to be in the same place often so it would be nice to do more than one night together & have some fun. Bust some moves for sure!

Q. “What are looking looking forward to the most?”
A. I’ll enjoy the day.I know most of the plans so far & its going to be great. I want to have a party & celebrate! I can’t wait to see her in her dress looking amazing. Dancing together will be great. We always have a fun time dancing. I hope she wears the right shoes for it…

Q. “What else are you excited about?”
A. The honeymoon, getting away together & relaxing with no iphones, emails or twitter! I will have her attention at last! You don’t know how lucky you all are to have the future Mrs Rob in your day.

A word to the wise. When asked, give your opinion, but don’t be offended if it doesn’t count. Its the ’showing support & interest’ that matters….

Rob.
(AKA Half-job Rob)

Hello Monday!

Ok, so it the start of a very special week! My wedding week! Hurrah!

We have a very special post today – from Matthew – Emma’s Groom! We don’t feel there is enough groom’s thoughts out there – so here we go! And if you like it, we will make it a regular! Without further ado – the groom speaks…

The Groom Speaks

I once heard an old Jewish joke that goes something like:

Q- How do you make God laugh?

A- Tell him your plans.

My version of this joke might be:

Q- How do you make your fiancée, her parents and your parents laugh?

A- Tell them your wedding plans.

All those many months ago when the preparations first began I tried to get involved and offer ideas.  However, within in a few days I realised that my ideas didn’t quite seem to fit in with anybody else’s vision.  Within a month I was completely silent when it came to deciding on pretty much anything.

Now, before this starts to sound like a tale of woe, let me assure you dear reader that this is exactly the way I wanted it to be.

The fact is for me this wedding is extremely simple.  Get married then have a party.  For the Bride it’s about a whole lot more than that…

Bridesmaids dresses, décor, guest lists, shoes, bridesmaids dresses, bridesmaids dresses, f***ing BRIDESMAIDS DRESSES, the car, the music, the confetti, the politics, the venue, the colour scheme, the napkins, the hymns, the flowers, the bunting, the colour of the ties, the cut of the suits, the timing, the cheese, the bridesmaids dresses, the table plan, the favours, the programme, the lighting, the bridesmaids and, Oh, did I mention the bridesmaids dresses?

On not one of these things did I have any involvement whatsoever in the decision-making processes and that is just fine by me.  Sure, maybe a token colour swatch was waved in front of my face for my “approval” but, really, I was simply there to confirm a decision that had already been made, not to offer any kind of serious input.

You see, if I’d been organising and making decisions on this wedding I would be standing at the altar dressed as Willy Wonka with my groomsmen around me dressed as Umpla Lupas (I’m not joking).  The reception would be an open Facebook event and we’d probably all be eating crisps and Super Noodles for the wedding breakfast.

Emma, our parents and even God may have laughed at my plans but I have learnt that sometimes that’s for the best.

Matthew

(PS from Emma; Bridesmaids dresses are important Matthew!)